Celebrate sisterhood with these 10 books

There are a couple of plot elements that a book can have that will make me say “Yes please” without needing to know anything more, and one of these is sister stories. I love books that explore the complex relationship between sisters and how those grow and change with age and situation.

March happens to be the month of my sister’s birthday, so in honor of that, I thought I’d share some of my favorite books that feature stories about sisters, or just have some of the best sister relationships.

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Girl Waits With Gun by Amy Stewart

This novel, set in 1914, tells the story of the Kopp sisters as they go through life together after their parents’ deaths. Based on actual events, the story follows Constance Kopp as she navigates an unlikely series of events to ultimately become the first female deputy sheriff. This book, and the rest in the series, is such a fun read, with a plot that keeps you guessing. The sisters all have such different personalities and interests (one is raising homing pigeons?!), but they come together to support each other and figure out life together.

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Magic For Liars by Sara Gailey

This book is such a blast. Ivy Gamble was born without magic and works as a private investigator, happy to stay away from her magical sister’s world of witchcraft. But when there’s a murder at the Hogwarts-like school where her sister teaches, Ivy is called upon to investigate. Not only is this a murder mystery that will keep you guessing, it also explores the complicated relationship between the two sisters as they unpack years’ worth of unsaid words and hidden feelings after their mother died when they were teenagers.

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To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before by Jenny Han

The Covey sisters are perhaps some of the most beloved sisters in the modern YA world. The main plot is focused on Lara Jean as she pretends to date one boy to try and hide her true feelings about her sister’s boyfriend. But in the background is Lara Jean’s relationships with her sisters Margo and Kitty. Margo is leaving for college in Scotland, and Kitty is the mischievous and sassy younger sister. I adore their friendships and how real their sisterhood feels: they tease and annoy each other, but at the end of the day, they’ve got each other’s back.

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The Light Between Worlds by Laura E. Weymouth

If you’ve ever read The Chronicles of Narnia and wondered how the kids deal with the real world in between Narnia visits, this one is for you. And even if you haven’t, this one is still for you! It’s such a beautiful and thoughtful story, with a gorgeous writing style. It’s told in two parts: In the first, Evelyn struggles after she and her siblings return to World War II England after living a lifetime in the Woodlands, a Narnia-esque world. In part two, Evelyn has disappeared, and her older sister Philippa has to reconcile with their relationship and the choices she made after their return from the Woodlands. Although the two are apart for most of the book, it is still a lovely exploration of a complex sister relationship.

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Ayesha At Last by Uzma Jalaluddin

Okay, this one technically isn’t about sisters, but the main character Ayesha is so close with her cousin Hafsa that they’re practically sisters, so I’m counting it. This modern-day Muslim Pride and Prejudice is a funny and heartwarming take on a beloved story. I loved how it showed the close but fraught relationship between the two almost-sisters and how even though Ayesha struggles with the differences in their personalities, she always cares for Hafsa.

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Little Women by Louisa May Alcott

Is it really a list of best sister books if Little Women isn’t on it? This novel, of course, is having a moment right now with the recent movie adaptation by Greta Gerwig, but it’s long been a wonderful tale of how amazing and horrible sisters can be, all at the same time. Each of the four sisters has such different priorities and personalities, and the book is full of clashes between them. But it’s also full of tender moments as they care for each other and learn to accept each other for who they are.

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Sadie by Courtney Summers

This book takes advantage of the popularity of podcasts, with much of it written in a script style for a true-crime podcast. Sadie is determined to solve the murder of her sister, and podcast host West McCray is determined to find Sadie when she disappears during her investigation. Although Sadie’s sister has died, the story does a beautiful job of exploring the grief Sadie experiences and what lengths sisters will go through to protect and find justice for each other.

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Miss Match by Erynn Mangum

Okay, confession: this is one of my favorite books. It’s a modern twist on Emma and follows Laurie Holbrook as she plays matchmaker among her friends. It’s such a cute and fun romance, and features one of my favorite tropes, fake dating! While the romance is at the forefront, Laurie has two older sisters who dote on her and obsess over her love life. It’s so fun to see them all together as adults, and also get glimpses of what their crazy childhood was like as they were growing up.

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The Hunger Games series by Suzanne Collins

Another classic story about sisters, there’s a reason The Hunger Games is so loved. Katniss is willing to literally die for her sister Primrose, but even before she volunteers to take her place in the Hunger Games, Katniss is doing all she can to protect Prim. Although Katniss spends much of the book away from her sister, it’s still a thrilling story that shows the strength of sisterly love.

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The Unhoneymooners by Christina Lauren

This book is laugh-out-loud funny. Olive loves her sister Ami, but has always felt inferior. Amy is perpetually lucky, while Olive is exactly the opposite. Until a disaster at Ami’s wedding means Olive gets to go on her honeymoon trip for free…with Ami’s future brother in law Ethan, whom she despises. Although the romance (and fake dating trope again!) is the focus of the plot, the story also unfolds as Olive grows and learns to love her sister and herself and stop comparing herself.

What are your favorite books about sisters? Have you read any of these? Let me know in the comments!

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Stargirl: How does the movie compare to the book?

When most people think of YA (young adult) books, what typically comes to mind are series from within the past ten years or so: The Hunger Games, Twilight, The Fault In Our stargirlStars. But YA books have been around for much longer. Stargirl by Jerry Spinelli was first published in 2000, and has been a staple of the YA scene ever since. But only this year did the beloved book get a movie adaptation, which released as an exclusive on Disney+ on March 13.

Stargirl is told from the first-person perspective of Leo, whose small high school in Mica, Arizona is turned upside down by the arrival of a new student: the crazy clothes-wearing, ukelele-playing, pet rat-owning Stargirl. Though the school doesn’t know what to make of her at first, they quickly grow to adore her, but when Stargirl proves too weird, the students turn on her. At its core, Stargirl is about high school life, the struggle of figuring out who you are as a teenager, and how to decide your values when you receive conflicting messages. So, how did the movie hold up?

Capturing high school life

The book is short, but it still manages to portray snippets of what high school is like, especially in a small town where gossip travels fast. The movie does this a little bit, such as keeping the opening scene where Leo arrives on the first day of school to everyone asking, “Have you seen her?” When he asks who, they simply say he’ll know when he sees her. Sure enough, when Leo spots Stargirl at lunch wearing a wild and colorful outfit, he gets it.

Other aspects, like how quickly the students’ collective opinion of Stargirl changes, were also still there, though many details that made the book so insightful are missing. Most of these changes are understandable in translating a book that can have meandering paragraphs to an onscreen experience that needs to be more focused. But the movie struggles a little bit between trying to decide if it’s set in 2020 or 2000. Of course in the book, there’s no social media or smartphones, so the way that gossip (and eventually bullying) spreads is primarily person-to-person. In the movie, the students clearly have the latest iPhones, but there’s never any hint of texting, posts, or really even photos used to share what’s thought about Stargirl.

I understand trying to stick to the original story, but this is one time that I would have preferred the movie to make a choice to differ from the book in execution, though not in spirit. Either set the movie in the early 2000s, or update the experience of high school life that was captured so well in the book so that it also fits in with modern students by having texting and social media influence the story.

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Figuring out who you are

In the book, both Leo and Stargirl are struggling to decide who they want to be. This is nearly a universal experience for teenagers, especially ones in late high school like these two are. I’ll talk more in the next section about Leo, but here I want to focus on Stargirl.

When she first comes to school, Stargirl is unapologetically herself. She sings “Happy Birthday” on everybody’s birthday in the lunchroom, she brings her pet brown rat to school, she brings flowers and a colorful tablecloth to cover her desk to each class. By the middle of the book, though, as everyone’s opinion of her has changed drastically, she asks Leo to help her be more “normal.” After struggling with it for a section of the book, she finally decides it’s not worth it, and goes back to her wild and wacky ways.

The movie only partially captures this struggle. For one thing, it does a poor job of showing what makes Stargirl different. In the book, what really sets her apart is that she truly cares about everyone and wants to make each person’s life a little brighter. She scours the newspaper to find small filler pieces about random happenings about town so she can anonymously give gifts to people. She knows everybody’s birthday, she gives every student a small gift each holiday, she is the one to bring school spirit back to the high school. In the movie, she simply wears quirky clothes and plays the ukelele. It changes her character from someone who is unexpected because they are genuinely nice, to an “I’m not like other girls” sort of character, a common but problematic trope.

Then the stretch of time where she tries to be normal is compressed. It doesn’t show how Stargirl struggles with this, and how she keeps trying to fit into a box anyways. The movie also combines her win at a state speech competition with Stargirl’s decision to go back to her old self, which worked but also left out chunks of the story. Overall, the movie somewhat captures Stargirl’s struggle with deciding who she wants to be, but it’s not as complete or as satisfying as the portrayal in the book.

Deciding what you value

A really interesting thread in the book is how torn Leo is between what other people at school think of him, and what Stargirl thinks of him after they start dating. At first, dating her is great–it’s his first girlfriend, so why wouldn’t it be? And then he realizes that everyone at school is giving Stargirl the cold shoulder, which ultimately extends to him. Leo struggles with what he values more: the opinion of other students, including his best friend Kevin, or his relationship with Stargirl. 

This conflict is laid out explicitly in the book. Since it’s first person, we can see Leo’s thoughts as he wrestles with the question. He also goes to Archie, a local man who serves as a mentor to Leo and many other students. Archie helps him realize this is the real question, and only Leo can decide for himself.

In the movie, Leo’s struggle is there, but feels a little different. Whether it’s from the lack of first-person narration or because the movie chose to do portray it in another way, Leo’s concerns with Stargirl being perceived as weird and both of them being shunned because of it feel shallower, and more concentrated on him wanting Stargirl to change. He never really explains why he wants her to change (in the book it’s almost framed as concern for her), and we don’t see him struggling with the decision to ask her to change, break up with her, or stop caring about what his peers think. It makes Leo a little less likable, and not as well-rounded of a character.

Final thoughts: Category Three

Maybe I could call this a 2.5? It’s almost in Category Two for me, but the book has so many delightful little details that the movie just can’t capture. If you’ve had an interest in reading the book but haven’t gotten around to it and are thinking you’ll just watch the movie, I encourage you to read the book. But if you liked the movie and didn’t feel like anything was lacking, I don’t think you’re missing out hugely if you don’t read the book.

Have you read or watched Stargirl? What were your thoughts? Let me know in the comments!

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Book Review: Lab Partners by Mora Montgomery

Whenever people ask what kind of genres I like to read, I always forget to list romance. I think partially because it’s a newer interest for me, and I don’t tend to read in it as heavily as others I like. But give me a sweet romance with adorably awkward people falling in love, and I’ll devour it.Lab Partners by Mora Montgomery ticked all my boxes, and I read it in one day. I loved so many things about this story: how kind and awkward Elliot was, how Jordan helped his self-esteem, the relationship between Elliot and his sister. But, there were a couple things that I took serious issue with and I think are deeply problematic.

What I liked

Elliot and his sister Ellie’s relationship
Okay, let’s get one thing out of the way: Elliot and Ellie are way too similar for character names, and it feels obnoxious to make them brother and sister. But since the book is written in first person so we don’t actually see the name “Elliot” on the page that much, it’s not too distracting once you get used to it.

Alright, that aside, I loved their relationship. It totally made sense how intimidated Elliot was by his sister since she seemed to have everything figured out and he has no clue what he wants to do after college. But then you get to see their relationship grow throughout the book as she is the only person in his family who knows about his feelings for Jordan and they become closer. I also absolutely loved the scene when Elliot has started to think he might be gay, and Ellie is super encouraging and accepting. She has some great lines of dialogue that felt like they really addressed the nuance and importance of the situation without being melodramatic.

The authenticity of the plot
I don’t quite know how to summarize this in one line, but basically I really appreciated how it captures how confusing high school can be, especially as you approach graduation, regardless of who you are. The plot focuses on Elliot figuring out he’s gay and if he likes Jordan as more than a friend, which is obviously already completely confusing and a lot to deal with. But in the backdrop, Elliot is a junior trying to decide where to apply for college and what he even wants to study. He loves cooking, but everyone else in his family is very STEM-focused (although that cooking plot line never really goes anywhere, which is disappointing). Additionally, Elliot’s family is supportive and loving, but extremely busy, and almost every time Elliot is at home, he’s by himself, so he’s wrestling with his family relationships and how they’ve changed. It seemed like a very realistic portrayal of how everything is heightened in high school, and how there’s never just one thing to figure out; you’re figuring out your whole life

What I didn’t like

Elliot and Jordan’s relationship
This isn’t completely fair. I did like their friendship together, how they supported and backed each other up, especially against the boys who kept bullying Elliot. And when they decided to date, their relationship was also super sweet. I loved seeing Elliot get all flustered, but also sometimes it was Jordan who would trip over himself, and it was all kinds of cuteness. But the transition from friends to dating…It felt off. Jordan kisses Elliot, which causes him to start questioning his sexuality. But instead of giving him space to figure it out on his own, Jordan comes uncomfortably close to pressuring Elliot into deciding within a week or so of their kiss. I get that maybe the author needed the plot to move faster or whatever other reasons there might be, but it felt really problematic to have a character pressure another character into dating them. Even if it was a heterosexual relationship, I would have had some issues, but especially with this being such a huge thing for Elliot to grapple with, I wanted to shout at Jordan, “Will you give him some time?!”

The revenge on the bullies
This is technically a spoiler, but it was a big issue I had with the book so I want to talk about it:

Throughout the book, three boys have been tormenting Elliot and eventually Jordan. It started out for various reasons, but quickly turned to homophobia once Elliot and Jordan started spending more time together. At the end of the book, one of Elliot’s friends does some hacking/social media digging on the bullies and then has a grand reveal when she shames them in front of the entire school. Some of the secrets were good to come out, like how one boy was cheating on his girlfriend. But then she outed one boy, revealing that he had a boyfriend at a different school. The other students began to mock him, and he was ashamed. The whole thing was super problematic. Even if he is the bad guy, outing someone publicly against their will is Not Okay. There were other more personal secrets like that too, such as one boy’s dad being abusive, that were presented as something they should be embarrassed about. I’m fine if the author wants to somehow reveal these backstories to the reader to show that the bullies were more than one-dimensional characters, but having it be a part of the revenge felt cruel and intrusive, especially since there was never any discussion of if a line had been crossed.

Overall, Lab Partners was a fun read and captured some elements of high school life well, but stumbled at the end with some problematic ways of resolving things.

Thank you to NetGallery for the ARC!

Lab Partners by Mora Montgomery comes out on March 10. Pre-order the book here!

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Sometimes you don’t know who you love, until they love you

When Jordan Hughes arrives at Pinecrest High School, Elliot Goldman’s graduating year suddenly gets a lot more interesting. Smart, good looking and charming, Jordan isn’t A cute and fun queer romance book review | Penn & Paper #bookish #books exactly the kind of person Elliot’s used to having as a lab partner. But when they start acing their assignments, life is suddenly about more than boring lectures, bad cafeteria nachos, or relentless bullying, and for the first time ever, Elliot can’t wait to get to chemistry class.

As they start spending more time together outside of school, Elliot realizes he’s never met anyone quite like Jordan. And then everything changes one night when Jordan kisses him, making Elliot question everything about their relationship and about himself. The butterflies start to make sense—the trouble is, right now, nothing else does.

Love was the last thing on Elliot’s mind. But as he begins to figure out how he really feels about Jordan, he realizes that sometimes the last thing you are looking for is the one thing you need the most.

This simple tip can unstick your creativity

It might be one of the worst feelings: trying to work on a project, and feeling empty. You’re just stuck.

There are no new ideas, either for projects to start or how to solve a problem with a current work-in-progress. At the very least, it’s frustrating. At its worst, this feeling can be demoralizing, amplifying the self-doubt in your head that keeps whispering that you’re not good enough to do this work, that you’ll never succeed. I’ve written before about dealing with creative burnout. But what if there were a way to prevent creative burnout altogether?

Now, I’m not here to tell you that you’ll never get a creative block again if you try this tip, but I do believe it will help you. I can tell you that it’s helped me in my writing life. And it sounds so simple, you may dismiss it at first:

Don’t ignore your creativity.

What do I mean by that? You might think, “I’m a writer/actor/painter/whatever, of course I won’t ignore my creativity!” But it’s easier to do than you might think. For one thing, ideas always seem to come at the most inconvenient time: right as you’re falling asleep, when you’re driving, or when you’re bending down to scoop up your dog’s poop. Or maybe it’s a longer form of being busy, like being in the middle of the project and not wanting to be tempted by new ideas. So you might start pushing these ideas away, wishing your creativity would wait until you actually had time to listen to it.

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This can happen particularly when you’re new to actively doing creative work. When I committed to writing regularly, at the beginning I forced myself to focus on only one idea and ignore all the rest. I also wasn’t as good about having a way to capture ideas when they came to me at inconvenient moments. But instead of being focused and productive, all that meant was that I was pushing away my creativity and not letting my creative well refill.

If you kept offering someone encouragement, ideas, or friendship, and they continually shut you down and ignored you, you’d probably stop trying, right? Our creativity is the same way – the more we ignore it and push it away, the less it shows up. But if we welcome it in, offer it a cup of tea, and listen to it talk, it will show up more and more with overflowing ideas.

This is how you keep yourself creatively energized. You welcome creativity and ideas as they come. Watch movies, play video games, go outside, and let the inspiration in. It may not always be a flood; sometimes it’s a trickle, or it may even go temporarily dry. But the more you welcome in the ideas, the more they will arrive. You’ll begin to notice things and get inspired by something that used to be an ordinary part of your life. But now that you’re thinking about ideas and actively working creatively and welcoming creativity, it won’t let you down.

Of course, there’s a balance to all this. When I say “don’t ignore creativity,” I don’t mean that you should abandon a project every time a new idea pops up to chase after the new shiny project. You’ll never get anything done that way, and dealing with Shiny Object Syndrome is a whole other thing.

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But be sure to capture your inspiration somehow. Whether it’s keeping a note on your phone of quotes you like or taking a picture of an interesting tree or emailing yourself links to weird science articles, let it all in, keep it all recorded, and then refocus on your current project. This is how you welcome creativity without letting it derail your work. Sometimes these pieces will fit in with your current project, like finding the missing piece of a puzzle that slots in perfectly. Other times, you may not use these tidbits for months. But when you say to an idea that appears, “I see you, you’re welcome here, this is where you can live,” it makes a nice habitat for other ideas to show up. Eventually one of them will be the thing that fixes your creative block, and over time, you’ll find that creative block happens less and less, because you’re always seeking out and receiving creativity.

How do you prevent or treat a creative block? Have you ever struggled with ignoring your creativity? Let me know in the comments!

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How mindfulness can revitalize your writing

One of the hardest parts of writing is carving out both the time and the mental energy to do it.

In our connected world, there’s always something to do with a spare second. Sometimes, these are external distractions: social media, work, school, housework, TV. Just because they take you away from your writing doesn’t mean they’re inherently bad, but they are still something that clamors for your attention.

In addition to all this, there are writing and other creative projects that also want to control your time. They all seem important, and they all even have something to do with writing and your writing goals! So how are you supposed to choose? And how do you give your creative self a break when there’s so much to do?

It turns out mindfulness can help with both of these questions.

What is mindfulness?

When most people think of mindfulness, they might think of meditation or yoga, which also probably means they have a very specific idea of the “type” of person who practices mindfulness. But really, mindfulness is just paying attention to yourself and how you’re responding to the world around you. It doesn’t have to be complicated or a long process; you don’t have to use an app or go to a class. You just have to be intentional about taking time to stop, focus on what’s happening in this moment, and only that.

The easiest way to practice mindfulness is to just focus on your breath: Right now, take a break from reading this article and the six other things you’re probably doing, and think about breathing. Breathe in for a count of 7, hold your breath for a count of 4, then exhale for a count of 8. Repeat this, releasing other thoughts that try to crowd in on your mind, and just focus on counting as you breathe. And there: you’re doing mindfulness.

How do you take a break?

With so many options to spend our energy on, it’s important to give yourself space to reconnect with your inner voice. I’ve written before about the idea of deep work but mindfulness can help you tune into your creativity even when you’re not working. Even when you’re not doing a specific task, your brain is usually still mulling it over. Sometimes, subconscious attention is great: it’s what leads to breakthroughs. But when you’re fixated on something that you can’t do anything about at the moment, then it’s not helpful. You may not be working, but you’re not giving yourself a true break.

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Practicing mindfulness can help you let go of anxieties like this so you can truly rest your break, and refill your creativity. There are a few simple exercises, like the breathing one I mentioned above. Another is often referred to as 5-4-3-2-1. I like to do this when I’m on a walk outside, but you can do it anywhere. First, name five things you can see. Then four things you can feel. Three you can hear. Two you can smell. One you can taste. You can also change it around—are there four things you smell right now? Only one thing you hear? Details like that aren’t the important part; what matters is you’re focusing your attention on what is surrounding you right now, rather than thinking about things you can’t do anything about. This allows your brain to relax and reenergize.

How do you choose a project?

Although mindfulness is helpful to get your mind off work, it can also be useful when you are working, specifically in choosing which project to work on. This might mean choose which book idea to pursue long term, or it might mean deciding what to work on during the free hour you have one afternoon. The form of mindfulness that is most helpful here is often referred to as attention management. It’s different than time management, because it doesn’t challenge you to schedule better and fit everything in; rather, attention management encourages you to prioritize what matters most to you and focus on that.

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It’s tempting to choose what to work on based on preconceived expectations, whether you’re placing them on yourself or they’re coming from external sources. Obviously, there are some things that need to get done regardless of how you feel, but if you have the freedom to choose which project to work on, be sure to periodically evaluate if it’s still the right fit for you. You’re always growing as a person and a writer, so you may outgrow a project—and that’s perfectly okay! But you don’t want to waste time working on a project that is no longer a good fit. Be mindful of how you’re reacting to a project and if it’s just a phase or if it’s because of larger problems.

Attention management can also help you in the short term. When you have a chance to work on a project, you’ll have to consider if you have any upcoming deadlines, but also take into account what is sparking your creativity at that moment. You’ll get more done and feel more refreshed if you follow that inner creative voice.

Mindfulness may be right up your alley, or it may be something you’ve never considered. Either way, I hope that I’ve given you some reasons to try it out and see if it helps your writing life. Just like anything else, mindfulness takes practice, so if it doesn’t click immediately, give it some time. It might revolutionize how you work and write!

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The most important part of creating characters

There are a lot of elements to a great book: a plot that keeps you guessing, beautiful writing style, a world that feels like you could walk around in it. But I would argue that one of the most (if not the most) important pieces of a good book is the characters.

Characters need to be relatable, but still have flaws. They need to surprise you, but still be believable. There’s a saying in design that users are bothered by bad design, they appreciate good design, but with truly great design they don’t even notice it: the goal is that it fades away to give them the absolute best experience. In some ways, writing characters is a little bit like that.

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When characters are well-crafted, you just know that you love them and would die for them, even when you might want to throw the book across the room because they made a bad choice. However, when a character isn’t believable or doesn’t act consistently, it stands out like a glaring red light (looking at you, Game of Thrones.)

So, we know that characters are important. We know what it feels like to read or watch something with characters you love. But how do you create these characters in your writing? How do you make sure their actions move the plot forward, while also making sense with who they are?

It can be intimidating, for sure, to try and construct a well-balanced character. There are lots of different methods to achieve this, and you’ll have to try out what works best for you. Maybe you like to answer a long questionnaire about each character, or write different scenes from their childhood. I would recommend (totally unbiased, of course) that you check out my free email course on building better characters. Over five lessons, I walk you through the most important aspects of how to make a character that has a goal aligned with your plot and has flaws that make sense for their character while also creating obstacles to achieving their goals.

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You probably already know that a character needs some sort of motivation, whether it’s saving the world or getting an A on their chemistry test. It’s what makes the plot happen. But there’s more to it than just giving them a goal and seeing what happens. To craft a character that feels well-rounded, they need to have both an external goal and an internal need.

External Goal

The external goal is usually easier to identify because it aligns with the plot and keeps things moving forward. Sometimes, the external goal is what creates the plot, like Frodo taking the Ring to Mordor. Other times, the goal is a reaction to the plot, like Katniss trying to survive the Hunger Games. Katniss’s motivation becomes more self-motivated as the series goes on, but in the first book, her goal is primarily to protect her sister and stay alive in the circumstances that she’s been forced into. The goal is a natural outgrowth of their motivation, but there are obstacles in the way, which force the character to keep readjusting and therefore the plot keeps changing.

To identify and develop your character’s external goal, you should be able to summarize it in one sentence:

The character wants (External Goal) because (External Motivation) but (External Conflict).

For The Hunger Games, it might look something like: Katniss wants to survive the Hunger Games because she needs to provide for her family, but that means she will have to kill her friend Peeta.

There’s a clear goal: survival. There’s also an understandable and sympathetic motivation—it’s not just survival for survival’s sake (though those stories can be interesting too) but so that she can provide for her family, especially her little sister. It makes the larger external goal more personal. While there is plenty of external conflict, the biggest one, both for Katniss and for us as readers, is that if she’s going to be the last one standing, it will mean she has to kill her allies, particularly Peeta who she and the readers have come to care for.

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Internal Need

Now, the thing that really makes a character jump off the page isn’t just the fact that they have a goal and there are some obstacles to achieving that. Even if the goal is personal to the character, it’s not enough to make us really fall for the character. For that to happen, we want to see some growth in the character. They should have a flaw that we as the readers notice, but the character may not even be aware of. By the end of the book (or series), they’ll have overcome this flaw to achieve a goal (notice: sometimes, the goal they achieve isn’t the one they set out to get in the beginning. Check out the email course for more info on that).

Again, usually the character isn’t aware that they have a flaw, but it’s still affecting their decisions and making the external goal harder for them. This flaw is what creates their internal conflict, and while the character doesn’t realize it, it’s leading to an internal motivation for them. It’s a little trickier to identify, but it can still be summarized in one sentence:

The character needs (internal need) because (internal motivation) but (internal conflict/flaw).

Let’s use Katniss again.

Katniss needs long-term hope because this will allow her to maintain her dignity and give her a reason to survive, but her practiced pessimism and refusal to trust others keeps her from hoping.

As you can see, this sentence about internal need is more complex than the external goal, and that’s pretty typical. People are complex, and therefore so are their motivations.

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Additionally, you can see how Katniss’s internal need intertwines with the external goal, and leaves room for her to grow during the second two books. At the start of The Hunger Games, Katniss is a cold realist, shaped by the hard circumstances of her childhood. When she volunteers as a tribute, she has only an external reason to survive: to protect her sister. But to truly survive the Hunger Games, and the Capitol, she needs more than that. She needs a sense of hope, of a potential long-term victory, like Peeta has. Otherwise, the Games will break her. But she also still needs to win the Games, despite the external conflict of needing to kill Peeta. These two connect at the end: (spoilers!) Externally, she realizes she can win the Games without killing Peeta by having them both pretend to eat poisonous berries and die, because the Capitol would rather have two winners than none. Internally, she decides she can beat her oppressors and that there’s something worth fighting for, which is a sign that she has begun to dream of hope and defeating the Capitol.

This is the key to a well-crafted character: The external goal is what prompts the character growth required to meet the internal need, and the internal need, once met, allows the character to achieve their external goal. It’s all intertwined.

Now, just because you know this, doesn’t mean it’s easy to write. It will likely take a lot of editing and adjusting to make sure your character matches those sentences you’ve written for their external goal and internal need. Sometimes you may think you know what this is for a character, but the story you write actually has a different goal or need; at this point, you’ll have to evaluate whether you want to change the story or change what you’ve identified as the goal and need.

It takes practice, but there is a method to creating a character like this, and you are capable of it. To dive more into what makes a good character, sign up for my email course. I go in depth into the character’s external goals and internal needs, as well as how you should weave their backstory into both of these elements and how to create a believable and consistent flaw, all with more examples. For more writing on a character’s goal, motivation, and conflict, check out Susan Dennard’s post here.

What are your favorite characters in fiction? How do you write characters? Let me know in the comments!

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Why busyness is overrated

Have you ever been in a conversation and had someone say to you, “I’m just so busy this week,” but instead of it sounding like a bad thing, it comes across more like a brag?

I’m willing to bet that not only have you heard this, you’ve also done this to someone else. It’s a common occurrence: fake-complaining about being busy, but really we’re letting everyone know that we just have so much to do because we’re so important. I know I’m guilty of this. But why do we do this? Why do we equate busyness with importance and consider it superior if we have a packed calendar?

The Harvard Business Review did a study on why Americans see busyness as a sign of importance, and had some interesting findings. Their theory is that Americans live in a socially mobile country, which means that individual effort can raise one’s status. So, the busier you are, the more work you’re doing, and therefore the higher up on the social ladder you must be. Additionally, in a capitalist society, we’re raised with the belief that if you work hard, you’ll be in high demand with employers, so by talking about how busy we are, we’re implying that we’re highly sought after and therefore valuable.

So, there are a lot of cultural and societal reasons why we associate busyness with higher worth. Taking a step back and recognizing that this idea of busyness being the same thing as importance is a cultural phenomenon (and a relatively recent one—until the 1960s, having leisure time was the symbol of being wealthy and important) can help us see that maybe this maxim we hold as 21st century Americans may not be true. But let’s dive in more: How does being busy affect creativity? Should we strive to constantly be doing?

The short answer, as you may have guessed from the article title, is no.

For one thing, research has shown repeatedly that switching between different tasks (aka multi-tasking) decreases your productivity instead of increasing it. So while it may feel like you’re getting a lot done as you check email and work on writing and keep an eye on the baby, you’re actual being less effective at all these things and increasing the amount of time it takes to complete them by up to 25%. Constantly doing things means we’re regularly distracted from the things that actually matter and we’re giving our limited amounts of attention to things that only seem urgent, but aren’t actually that important.

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Not only can being busy decrease our productivity, it is also detrimental to creativity. You’ve probably noticed this in your own creative life: When your head is full of to-do lists and tasks to check off, it seems like there’s no room left to come up with new ideas or figure out unique solutions. This isn’t just anecdotal; a study in Israel found this to be true. Researchers gave participants varying “mental loads” by assigning them anywhere from two- to seven-digit numbers to remember. Then participants were told a word (such as “white) and asked to respond with an association. Those with a higher mental load trying to remember the seven-digit number came up with more typical responses (responding “black” to white) while those who only had to remember two numbers had more varied and unique answers (like “cloud”).

Recent neuroscience studies support the idea that being busy can kill creativity. There are several regions of our brain that become more active when we’re not focusing on anything in particular. This “circuit” in our brain is called the default mode network, or DMN. Have you ever had a brilliant epiphany while doing something mundane like showering or washing dishes? You can thank the DMN—while your brain is not solely focused on completing a task or taking in new information, the DMN kicks in and is able to synthesize a wider array of information into a solution compared to when you are actively trying to focus on the problem.

The DMN is what allows our brains to recontextualize information we’ve taken in and free associate one concept with another. It is, actually, what we would call daydreaming—making seemingly random connections that can actually lead to ideas we would have never come up with otherwise.

Since the DMN only starts being active when you’re in a resting state, being consistently busy puts a damper on your creativity. When you don’t give your mind a chance to reset and wander aimlessly, you’re inhibiting your brain’s ability to think of unique solutions and new ideas. Our society may be telling us that being busy is important, but in reality taking a break is actually more important to being creative.

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Rather than fall into the trap of believing that more is more, take a step back and evaluate how you’re spending your time. What things are you doing because you literally have to (like school or work), what things are you doing because you care about them (spending time with family, hobbies, creative passions, volunteering), and what are you doing that doesn’t add value to your life, but maybe someone happened to ask you and you said yes, or you otherwise feel somehow obligated to do it? Take a look at this last category, and begin to make a plan on how to cut these things out of your life. You don’t need to do things just for the sake of doing; it’s far better for your mental health and creativity to give yourself a chance to rest.

Even when you are busy with things you care about, try incorporating breaks for your brain throughout the day. Go for a walk, meditate, exercise, color, or even just do household chores without a podcast or source of information on in the background. Let your mind wander—you might be surprised what it finds!

How do you take a break? Do you find time to take breaks during the day? Let me know in the comments!

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How to handle criticism of your writing

Getting feedback on your work is one of the best ways to improve your writing, but let’s be honest: Sometimes it sucks.

You’ve poured your heart and soul into this piece of writing and you decide to share it, but then the person you give it to doesn’t love it with their entire heart and soul. In fact, they point out areas to improve! How dare they?

It sounds ridiculous when you think it through like that, but having a gut reaction of defensiveness or crushing self-defeat when someone critiques your work is completely normal. But often, having another person look it reveals what a reader or a potential agent will spot, and can help us write better. So how do you balance asking for critiques of your work and improving it while not being crushed?

Ask people you trust

This part starts before you even send out your work. You need to find the right person to critique it. This means both their writing style and level of skill should match (or exceed) yours, but also their style of feedback should click with you. Do you need the truth, straightforward and to the point? Do you want someone to sugarcoat it a little bit? Of course, neither of these approaches is going to be the right approach 100% of the time, but based on your personality, how well you know the person, and where you are in your writing life, you may want more direct feedback, or you may want some cushioning. Either way, make sure this is clear to your critique partner, and that they’re okay with this.

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Sleep on it

Once you receive your critiqued work back and read through the feedback, you’re going to have a gut reaction because you’re not only human, you’re a writer. Perhaps the most important thing I can tell you in this post is don’t act on that gut reaction. Seriously. Do not fire off an angry response to your reader, outlining in detail how they’re wrong. Do not give up on writing and smash your computer with a hammer. Do not sit in a ball and cry for thirty-six hours. It’s going to be okay, I promise. Take a deep breath, and put away the feedback. Go for a walk, cuddle a puppy, watch your favorite TV show – and get some sleep. Don’t respond to the feedback until the next day when you’ve gotten a chance to let that reaction pass.

Read it through multiple times

After you’ve taken some time away from the feedback, read it again. And again. Eventually, your gut reaction will fade until you can actually take in the critique. It’s important that you actually read it, word-for-word, several times, not just think about it. If you don’t read it again, you’re relying on your memory of the feedback, which is colored by that gut reaction that probably wasn’t the coziest feeling. So go back to the actual words themselves, and see what your critique partner said. If you’ve chosen people you trust, it’s probably not actually as harsh or as devastating as you remember it. It may not be what you wanted to hear, but you chose the right critique partner and you can trust what they have to say.

Get several opinions

Now, just because one person had a critique, doesn’t mean you should act on it immediately. You know your story best. Sometimes, one insightful person will make a comment and you’ll think Of course, how did I not notice that! And you can set about fixing it without further thought. But sometimes you’ll read a comment and wonder, Did they just not get it? Or did I not do what I was trying to do? That’s when it’s helpful to have several people who have read it and commented. If you see several people saying the same thing, it probably means you need to edit something to fix the critique. If only one person commented and it doesn’t ring true to you, you’re probably okay to leave it.

Check your gut

Ultimately, you’re the author and it’s your story. If you’ve read the feedback several times and slept on it and it still doesn’t feel right, you have to trust your writerly instinct. Give true consideration to each comment, and see if the comment points to a larger problem that you can fix in your own way. If it feels like it’s not right for your story or if it doesn’t sound like your voice, then you don’t have to change something just because a critique partner points it out. Be open to feedback and improving, but also stay true to your story.

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Bonus tip: Always say thank you!

Even if you disagree with their suggestions. Even if you don’t use a single one. They still took the time to read your piece and offer thoughtful feedback, so say thank you! I’m not saying you need to send them a gift basket, but you’d be surprised by how many writers respond cruelly or not at all to their readers because they don’t agree with the feedback. If you didn’t find it useful, just a simple “thank you for taking the time to read my work” is all you need.

How do you respond to feedback? Have you tried any of these tips? Let me know in the comments!

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My 2020 One Little Word + a big announcement!

Alright, I know January is half over, but I’ve been busy, so I’m just now getting around to making my goals for the year and thinking about what I want to achieve. So even though it’s now we’re three weeks into the year, I’m writing a post about my goals for 2020 and you’ll just have to deal with it. But do stick around—I’ve got an exciting announcement at the end of the post as an outgrowth of my goals!

For the past several years, I’ve given up on depressing, never-gonna-stick New Year’s resolutions and started choosing “one little word” for the year. You can read more about this idea here, but basically it’s a word that encapsulates how you want to feel this year or how you want the year to look. It can really be whatever you want. For me, it’s a great way to choose a direction and base my goals on that. Plus, I like to get crafty and make some cute reminders and stuff with my word to inspire me throughout the year. So, my word for this year is (drum roll please)…

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I usually go through several words trying to come up with the right one. For some reason, my other ideas this year were all “ex” words. I started with examine—I had been feeling prompted to look inwardly at things I assumed about myself, good and bad, and reevaluate if they were still true. I tend to stick to a judgment once I’ve made it and then assume it as part of my identity, and I wanted to stop doing that. After thinking more about what I want to do this year, I decided examine was too inward focused. So I switched to explore. I could apply it metaphorically to exploring myself, but also literally by traveling more and seeing more of the city where I live. I’ve been feeling restless lately, like I want to do more new things, so I thought explore would sum all that up, but it still didn’t feel quite right. Out of nowhere, the word expand came to me. It fit everything I needed it to: Expand the assumptions I have about myself and the world around me; expand my one-time experiences; and also expand my habits, what I do regularly, how I operate in the world. I want to challenge myself and do new things. I want 2020 to be a year of expansion and growth in all areas: my personal life, my job, my writing life, and my blog.

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So, how do I plan on doing all this expanding and growth? Glad you asked! That brings us to my special announcement…

I’m going to self-publish a short story collection, and I want to bring you along on the journey!

I’ve been playing around with the idea of self-publishing something for about a year now, and I finally have an idea I love and want to turn into a collection of short stories to be published at the end of this year. I’m excited to share my writing in this way and grow my writing skills as I write specifically to publish something. I also know that since I’m querying my first book this year, 2020 is probably going to be a year with a lot of rejection, so I wanted to have a project that was entirely within my control and not dependent on Yes-es from other people.

This project will also allow me to grow my blog in a new way, as I’m going to be chronicling the entire process from brainstorming to marketing to publishing! It’s a little scary, since I obviously don’t know exactly what will happen or how things will go. But I know I have enjoyed and benefitted from other authors doing similar things, so I wanted to open up this process as I go through it, either to give other writers advice or just to give readers a glimpse behind the curtain. So keep an eye out for blog posts featuring updates on how it’s going!

Not only is this project expanding my writing and blogging life, it’s definitely going to push me personally. I recently went full-time at my job, so I’m just starting to learn the balance between my 9-5 job and my writing/blogging commitments. Self-publishing also presents a whole new set of skills I’ll have to learn and other challenges that I know will probably lead to some hard days, but I believe it will all be worth it. Either way, we’ll find out together!

I hope you’re excited as I am! The first post with more details about my idea and my process for planning a book will be coming soon.

If you want to make sure to stay up-to-date on important milestones like finishing the first draft, cover reveal, and preordering sign up here!

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How I read over 100 books in one year

Whether you’re a writer or not, reading books is an important way to learn more about the world around you, relax with a good story, and improve your communication skills. But it can be hard to read lots of books, even if you enjoy reading. There are always other things to do—go to work or school, do housework, hang out with friends, go online, watch the newest episode of The Good Place. Life is busy!

Despite 2019 being one of the busiest years ever for me, I still managed to read over a hundred books (include some BIG ones like The Priory of the Orange Tree that took up an entire month!) Okay, yes, that’s sort of a humble-brag, but I want to share with you some tips I’ve learned to make time for reading and read more books.

An important note: I’m not here to shame anyone for the number of books you read in a year! I happen to be a super-fast reader, but the speed at which you read doesn’t equate to some moral standing, even when people act like it does. Basically, it’s not bad or shameful if you take a longer time to finish books. This post is less about hitting some arbitrary number of books that seems “successful” and more about giving you tips to read more if that’s something you want to do.

Make reading your default

Imagine this scenario: You’ve got somewhere to be, but you don’t need to leave quite yet so you’ve got five minutes to kill. What do you do? If you’re like most people, you probably pull out your phone to play a game or scroll social media. You may not even think about it—if you’ve got some time and nothing to pay attention to, your default is to get out your phone.

But these snippets of time add up: If you just spend 15 minutes each day killing time, that’s 5,475 minutes a year—nearly four days! Imagine if you spent four days doing nothing but reading. That’s at least a whole book, maybe even two or three. So take advantage of these little pockets of time. Rather than opening an app, make it a habit to pull out your book and read even a couple pages. It will take some time to learn, but as you do it more and more, reading will become your go-to.

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Try out different formats

I’ll be honest: I still vastly prefer physical books over any other format. Between my day job and writing/blogging, I stare at a computer screen for most of the day, and reading a book is a great way to give my eyes a break. But when I started reviewing books, I had to use ebooks, and it turns out it’s pretty nice to have a book with me basically wherever I go. It’s a handy way to help make reading your default—instead of using your phone to get mad on Twitter or play a game, you can read while you wait in line at the grocery store or kill time in your car when you arrive somewhere early.

Another great option is to try out audiobooks. I actually tend to listen to podcasts more so I don’t use audiobooks as much, but I know plenty of people who swear by them. They can be especially great if you have a long commute, or if you aren’t a fast reader since you can adjust the speed. Audiobooks are definitely the best way to multitask—housework doesn’t seem so bad when you can listen to a story while doing it! You probably know Audible as the best source of audiobooks, but the app Libby connects with your local library so you can rent audiobooks for free.

Schedule reading time

If you really struggle to find time to read, stop waiting for it to appear and make time. This year, I adopted a tradition that every Friday was an “off day.” Once I got off work, I didn’t try to write or blog or do anything productive. I just read. I tried not to make plans or schedule anything for Friday afternoons. I considered that my reading time, even if the rest of the week was so crazy I hadn’t been able to read a single page. I know that I’m really lucky to be able to schedule a whole afternoon for reading, but look at your calendar and decide on a time to schedule as your reading time. It might be one day a week or before bed or right after you wake up. Put it in your calendar like you would for any other appointment you’re not going to cancel on, and then show up. Make a commitment to reading regularly, and don’t let yourself out of it.

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If you don’t like a book, STOP READING

Okay. I know to some people, this is an easy one. But if you’re like me, once you start reading a book, you feel somehow indebted to it. Like you’ve made a promise by starting to read it, and to give up before it’s over is just wrong. Let me tell you, friend: It’s okay to not finish a book if you’re not enjoying it.

You only have so much time to read. Why waste it on a bad book? More than that, if you’re not enjoying the book, you’re less likely to read it, but since you won’t move on to another book yet, you end up not reading as much. Now that reading is my default, I can tell that I’m not enjoying a book as much as I should because I suddenly revert back to wasting time by doing other things. Often, I’ll tell myself that I like the book enough to finish it, and then realize that I’ve been procrastinating reading, so clearly I don’t like it that much. If you can’t give yourself permission to give up on a book, here: I’m giving you permission. Stop reading it. Go donate or sell it or give it to a friend (or an enemy if the book is really bad) and go find a new book you’re excited to read. Life is too short to read bad books!

How do you read more books? What’s your reading goal for 2020? Let me know in the comments!

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